是震撼，也是无力感

I had been extremely busy last week, day out at 6am, day in at 10pm. No time to read and relax. Finally, I had time to catch up on my reading this week.

<是震撼，也是无力感> -- 张小娴
一位念中六的女孩子问，爱情的定义是。。。。。她思考了很久，还是想不到。
爱情的定义，对每个人来说，也许都有点不同吧。

有些女人觉得男朋友哪天不打她就是爱她，有些女人觉得男朋友哪天打她才是爱她。
有些女人认为替男人生孩子是爱他，有些女人却认为为男人打掉孩子才是爱他。
有些女人觉得为一个男人放弃自己的理想，便是爱他。有些女人却会因为爱一个男人而有自己的理想，她怕跟不上他。

付出是一种爱，但是，想从他身上得到更多，也是一种爱。
思念是爱，但是，你叫自己不要再思念他，你负担不起了，那也是爱。

爱是有安全感，又没有安全感。
爱是一种震撼，也是一种无力感。
爱是诱惑，也惟有爱能给你力量抗拒诱惑。
爱是忠诚，可是，爱也令你背叛。

不要问我爱情的定义，它的定义会随着你的年纪和经历改变，越来越清晰，或者越来越模糊。那时候，你会明白，寻找定义是不必要的。

A day out with Mummy @ Orchard Road

I was back in SG 2 weeks ago, it was a short trip home for me. As Xmas was approaching, I am itching to go out for some retail therapy, and hence I took a few days of leave and asked Mummy to go on a 1-day shopping spree with me!

When I was in NUS, I had plenty of time other than going to lectures. I could go on shopping sprees with Mummy almost every week. We will walk from one end of Orchard (Scotts Isetan) to the other end (Centrepoint), covering Scotts Isetan - Far East Plaza - Tangs - Wisma - Taka - Paragon - Heeren - Centrepoint. Our trip starts at 9am and will end at 10pm. Haha!!! Just eat and buy, eat and buy :)

On 5 Nov, we decided to do it again....we started at 9am and had breakfast at Bedok Interchange before taking a train to Orchard....

A snapshot of Orchard Road. Quite deserted as it was a weekday.

The fountain outside Ngee Ann City

Every year, Ngee Ann City will put up a gigantic Christmas Tree :)

Mummy outside Takashimaya S.C. One of our favourite places to shop as it has everything (almost) under 1 roof!

This pair of Japanese dolls stood at the entrance of Takashimaya. So cute!

Me and my Iced Passion Tea - Coffee Club Express! Whenever we go on a 1-day shopping spree, we will always stop for afternoon tea and rest.

Mummy and her Muddy Mud Pie (before)

Mummy and her Muddy Mud Pie (after)

The next time we can shop will have to be around Xmas period, when I will be back in Singapore for 2 weeks. Haha!!! Let's do it again!

The love of my life

I guess I am one of the millions of people worldwide, who followed the US Elections very closely. No, this post is not about politicals or opinions. This post is about Mr Obama's acceptance speech right after his successful election to the White House.

Mr Obama thanked his supporters, running mate and family for their immense and unwavering support. He also thanked his wife, who is 'the love of his life' and attributed his success to her support.

I was immensely touched when I heard this sentence in his speech. Yes, I guess many, or I would say most, of us would not be what we are today without our family and loved ones. We need the moral support from them, the care and concern from them, and just their presences alone are enough to help us ride through the storm.

To the love of my life. Thank you for being there for me.

情人不是 LEGO

Was feeling a bit sad and melacholic tonight, as I listened to oldies on radio, I read another book by 张小娴. One of the paragraphs is like this:

"...你想得到一样东西，便要首先放手。
情人不是你的LEGO积木，可以让你拿在手里，砌出心中的理想模型，有时候，你只能 LET GO。
爱便是学习去放手。
当你舍弃的时候，你便拥有。
........
肉体有边界，人心却是无边界的。隔了数不清的年月之后，你终于了解，你所爱的，是无边界的东西，你不能拥有，只能等他流向你。"
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读后感:
有一种爱叫做放手。
如果两个人有缘，就算距离很远，两颗心也贴得很紧。你心里有我，我心里有你。
你说，真爱能够缩短距离，时间和空间。
告诉我，我还能相信你吗?

Another article from 张小娴

I am back in Singapore on my monthly break. Its been raining quite frequently in Sg, and the rainy weather 'confined' me to home. I picked up some books and read...savouring each page :) I re-found meaning in some of them, one of them is this:

<和潜力恋爱> -- 张小娴

许多女人一辈子也是和男人的潜力恋爱。
她爱上的，是他的潜力。她相信这个男人将来会有她所期望的成就，他也变成她所渴望的那种人。她和一种期待恋爱，直她的期待落空了，她也失恋了。
男人不是股票，即使男人是股票，也没有一个人会笨得用自己的期望和幻想去买一支股票。女人这种动物，却会用期望和幻想去爱一个男人。
潜力即是未发生，也有可能永远不会发生的东西。只迷恋现状的女人，可能有点肤浅，只顾跟潜力恋爱得女人，又太脱离现实了。
男人爱女人的现状，女人爱男人的现状和潜力，这是无可厚非的。现状和潜力各占多少百分比，可是个智力问题。
百分之三十的现状和百分之七十的潜力，未免太危险了。
一半一半，便有一半机会会失望。
我会要百分之七十的现状和百分之三十的潜力。相信他有潜力，是相信他会和我一起进步。爱现在的他，不管将来，那么，我至少享受过他的现状，而不是跟自己的期待恋爱。
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