Hmmm...my 2nd wk here, will be home this Fri evening. Have enjoyed my stay here so far, and ppl are commenting on how fast I can adapt to life here. yup, actually i dont pick and fuss so much, only for accomodation. It must be nice, comfy, bright, clean and spacious. Food wise, i eat anything that is clean and edible.
ITs very interesting to eat here in Manila, they have a wide variety of food, lets not talk about local food like laksa, mee siam la. But Jap, Korean, Western, Italian etc, there are a lot and plenty to choose from. And in malls, you will find pushcarts selling juices, snacks etc. One thing in particular: they use MANGO for every single food item. Mango juice, mango shake, mango salad, mango-california maki, mango pancake, mango crepe, fresh mango, mango ice kachang, mango as garnish, mango as....blah blah...and the list goes on..,mango for everything. Wah...after almost a wk, i have a phobia for mango...everything is mango and its extremely SWEET :)
There are also many shopping malls ard the area I stay: SM Megamall, The Podium, St. Francis etc...wow...I will blog abt it in a later mail, to be accompanied with pictures :P
Till then....bye bye frens :) We shall meet soon.
Monday, April 23, 2007
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Hot and sunny Manila
I touched down in Manila y'day afternoon, immediately i could feel the difference. It was DIFFERENT. The airport is not new, though not tattered, and the baggage system isnt fast, though not too slow, the weather is hot and dry and dusty, though not unliveable. I guess I'm (Singaporeans) are too 'pampered' at home.
We are so used to living in a clean and neat env, where everything works in order, with trains and buses connecting us to every part of the city, and fully air-con. I guess we are too accustomed to the life at home. Hence I must say I still haven fully adjusted to Manila.
Its not a bad city la, just different from SG. The food is also different, i miss local fare at home, or maybe i haven seek out the better food here yet. Tonight i must make sure i go and source out food, i haven been eating much since y'day lunch.
I will post my pics once i find a chance to take. for now, just to let everyone knows: I have arrived safely in Manila, but i miss home.
We are so used to living in a clean and neat env, where everything works in order, with trains and buses connecting us to every part of the city, and fully air-con. I guess we are too accustomed to the life at home. Hence I must say I still haven fully adjusted to Manila.
Its not a bad city la, just different from SG. The food is also different, i miss local fare at home, or maybe i haven seek out the better food here yet. Tonight i must make sure i go and source out food, i haven been eating much since y'day lunch.
I will post my pics once i find a chance to take. for now, just to let everyone knows: I have arrived safely in Manila, but i miss home.
Friday, April 13, 2007
Guilty yet thankful
Recent wks have been a whirlwind for me. My schedule is hectic and kinda punishing.
I will wake at 7am, change, make up and leave home at 745am. Breakie with parents then at 815am, I rush into office. The whole day will be busy, either i am working on long-time problems or trying to resolve new problems that occur. 12noon is lunch time and I get an hr to breathe normally. 1pm start work and I will go all the way till 7plus-8pm. No break, just an occasional snack on apples or cereal. By the time I leave office, its usually 7plus and I will step into house after 8pm. On some rare occasions, i will leave before 630pm and go for a brisk walk to exercise, thats the time when i get to see the evening sun.
When I bath and eat, it will be almost 9pm. Then i will either do more reading or i ll decide to indulge myself n watch tv prog. Conversations with Daddy and Mommy are usually short and concise, and they will patiently listen to my grouses (if any) or we will discuss hows their day. To be frank, usually we talk in front of the tv, and I would be fast asleep by the count of ten > which means they dont usually get much out of me.
I am really guilty, like I have not been spending enough time with them. No more luxury time with Mom, she has to do grocery alone, eat lunches alone. No more shopping with her, unless its public holi. No more late night watching soccer with Daddy, unless I can yank myself out of bed. Sigh... I feel so bad...I am neglecting them. But they are so supportive, they do not blame me and still encourage me to work harder and not worry abt them :(
Life is really very short, what are my priorties in life? Career? Money? Family? I'll put up both my arms and legs to say: FAMILY! I treasure every min i spend with them, every word i say to them. In the past, when time was abundant, I would not feel the need/urge to talk to them, I find it very normal to spend time together; and sometimes, i even feel 'irritated' at the amt of time we 'stick' tgt. Now that time is a luxury, i really treasure every min, like its the most precious thing in the world. Money cannot buy me family time and work will not give me the fufilment that family time gives.
I often ask myself: if i sacrifice family time for work now; one day, when anything happens and they are not with me, can i still embrace my work and be happy?
I will wake at 7am, change, make up and leave home at 745am. Breakie with parents then at 815am, I rush into office. The whole day will be busy, either i am working on long-time problems or trying to resolve new problems that occur. 12noon is lunch time and I get an hr to breathe normally. 1pm start work and I will go all the way till 7plus-8pm. No break, just an occasional snack on apples or cereal. By the time I leave office, its usually 7plus and I will step into house after 8pm. On some rare occasions, i will leave before 630pm and go for a brisk walk to exercise, thats the time when i get to see the evening sun.
When I bath and eat, it will be almost 9pm. Then i will either do more reading or i ll decide to indulge myself n watch tv prog. Conversations with Daddy and Mommy are usually short and concise, and they will patiently listen to my grouses (if any) or we will discuss hows their day. To be frank, usually we talk in front of the tv, and I would be fast asleep by the count of ten > which means they dont usually get much out of me.
I am really guilty, like I have not been spending enough time with them. No more luxury time with Mom, she has to do grocery alone, eat lunches alone. No more shopping with her, unless its public holi. No more late night watching soccer with Daddy, unless I can yank myself out of bed. Sigh... I feel so bad...I am neglecting them. But they are so supportive, they do not blame me and still encourage me to work harder and not worry abt them :(
Life is really very short, what are my priorties in life? Career? Money? Family? I'll put up both my arms and legs to say: FAMILY! I treasure every min i spend with them, every word i say to them. In the past, when time was abundant, I would not feel the need/urge to talk to them, I find it very normal to spend time together; and sometimes, i even feel 'irritated' at the amt of time we 'stick' tgt. Now that time is a luxury, i really treasure every min, like its the most precious thing in the world. Money cannot buy me family time and work will not give me the fufilment that family time gives.
I often ask myself: if i sacrifice family time for work now; one day, when anything happens and they are not with me, can i still embrace my work and be happy?
Thursday, April 12, 2007
當靈魂那根弦被撥動 文◎張小嫻
I like this post, copied from 6park.com:
當一根小提琴的琴弦被撥動時，會引起同一房間裏所有弦樂器的共振，即使這個振動微弱到肉耳根本聽不見，但是，最敏感的人都能感受到這種共振。當靈魂那根弦被撥動了，身體和愛也會共振……
●我和你的共振 有時候，你說不出為甚麼喜歡一個人。他長得並不特別好看，他並不完美。然而，他把你完完全全吸引住了，因為他有靈魂。
只有靈魂能觸動靈魂。
有些人，也許出身大富之家，也許在世界一流大學畢業，也許儀表不凡，也許有一個光明燦爛的前途，也許擁有以上所有的優點，可是，你感受不到他的靈魂，他只有一個耀目的軀殼。
另一些人，相信自己非常有內涵。他充分掌握潮流資訊，知道現在最流行的掌上電腦、數碼相機、名車，甚至最流行的球鞋。他知道甚麼是好東西，隨時可以唸出一串現代最有名的畫家、建築師、室內設計師和家具設計師的名字。可是，他不過是個資料蒐集員，沒有靈魂。
靈魂是一個可能性、一種智慧。它也可以很簡單：就是兩個人的契合。
為甚麼你覺得甲有靈魂而乙沒有？因為甲的靈魂能與你的靈魂共振。
當一根小提琴的琴弦被撥動時，會引起同一房間裏所有弦樂器的共振，即使這個振動微弱到肉耳根本聽不見，但是，最敏感的人都能感受到這種共振。當靈魂那根弦被撥動了，身體和愛也會共振。
我們愛上的，是一個能撥動我們靈魂那根弦線的人。這種感覺太奧妙了，很難去解釋，以至我們只能說：『他有一種屬於靈魂的東西。』
有一天，當你不再愛眼前人，也許是因為，靈魂那根弦已經斷了。
●喜歡和不喜歡
朋友約一位女士吃飯。那位女士應約赴會，剛坐下來，便先旨聲明： 『你不是我的類型，所以，不要打我主意。』 朋友愣了一下。他並沒有打算追求這位女士，他只是覺得她是個聊天的好對象。可是，人家這樣說，假如他說：『我不是想追求你！』那便似乎欠缺了男士風度。他惟有微笑表示明白。
『先旨聲明』也是一種態度，免得對方會誤會或日後大家尷尬。然而，這得要對自己非常有信心才可以。否則，碰到一位沒風度的男士，他說：『我對你根本沒意思！』那便很尷尬了。
我不是那種有信心『先旨聲明』的人。不喜歡一個人，我不會赴他的約，答應赴約，便是對他有好感。當然了，這種好感不一定發展成愛情，它也可以是友情。
不喜歡的人，無謂給他機會。事實上，一句話也嫌多。做人還是簡單一點好，我的一切，都可以分成喜歡和不喜歡：喜歡和不喜歡的人，喜歡和不喜歡的書，喜歡和不喜歡的地方，喜歡和不喜歡的食物，喜歡和不喜歡做的事，沒有模稜兩可。
一旦喜歡一個人，我會對他特別包容。不喜歡的，我會很挑剔。
喜歡的食物，我可以連續吃幾年才換口味。喜歡的書，我會一看再看。喜歡做的事，我可以不計代價。幸好，我喜歡的東西不多，喜歡的人更少。
●結婚的時差
台灣作家張國立的新書《亞當和那根他媽的肋骨》裏，有兩則廁所笑話：
老婆和情人的差別有多少？
差十五公斤。
老公和情人間的差別又有多大？
差四十五分鐘。
大部分的笑話，都離不開性和婚姻。女人婚後不一定會發胖，男人婚後，卻通常會疏懶一點。曾經有醫學報告指出，在床上心臟病發的男性，很大比例是在情婦床上病發的，只有少數是在自家的床上。至於理由，就不用說得太明白了。
朋友在唸一個兩年制的心理輔導碩士課程，他是班上年紀最大的一個，有一次，上課的時候，一位女同學說，有一個問題，她反覆思考了十年，那就是婚姻。這時候，我的朋友笑呵呵地說：『這個問題，我思考了三十年。』
他經歷了兩次失敗的婚姻，卻仍然相信婚姻。那位比他年輕許多的女同學，未婚，不相信婚姻。是否應該結婚，是許多人婚前和婚後都在思考的問題。
曾經跟一個女孩子聊天，十多年來，她交過兩個男朋友。跟第一個一起的時候，他很想結婚，她的事業如日中天，而且還有夢想要去完成。結果，他跟別人結婚了。現在，她很想結婚，她身邊的男人正在為事業奮鬥，一點也不想結婚。
當你很想很想的時候，不一定會遇到一個同樣很想很想的人。當你不想不想的時候，卻遇到一個很想很想的人。愛情和婚姻有時就像飛越了半個地球，難免會出現時差。
當一根小提琴的琴弦被撥動時，會引起同一房間裏所有弦樂器的共振，即使這個振動微弱到肉耳根本聽不見，但是，最敏感的人都能感受到這種共振。當靈魂那根弦被撥動了，身體和愛也會共振……
●我和你的共振 有時候，你說不出為甚麼喜歡一個人。他長得並不特別好看，他並不完美。然而，他把你完完全全吸引住了，因為他有靈魂。
只有靈魂能觸動靈魂。
有些人，也許出身大富之家，也許在世界一流大學畢業，也許儀表不凡，也許有一個光明燦爛的前途，也許擁有以上所有的優點，可是，你感受不到他的靈魂，他只有一個耀目的軀殼。
另一些人，相信自己非常有內涵。他充分掌握潮流資訊，知道現在最流行的掌上電腦、數碼相機、名車，甚至最流行的球鞋。他知道甚麼是好東西，隨時可以唸出一串現代最有名的畫家、建築師、室內設計師和家具設計師的名字。可是，他不過是個資料蒐集員，沒有靈魂。
靈魂是一個可能性、一種智慧。它也可以很簡單：就是兩個人的契合。
為甚麼你覺得甲有靈魂而乙沒有？因為甲的靈魂能與你的靈魂共振。
當一根小提琴的琴弦被撥動時，會引起同一房間裏所有弦樂器的共振，即使這個振動微弱到肉耳根本聽不見，但是，最敏感的人都能感受到這種共振。當靈魂那根弦被撥動了，身體和愛也會共振。
我們愛上的，是一個能撥動我們靈魂那根弦線的人。這種感覺太奧妙了，很難去解釋，以至我們只能說：『他有一種屬於靈魂的東西。』
有一天，當你不再愛眼前人，也許是因為，靈魂那根弦已經斷了。
●喜歡和不喜歡
朋友約一位女士吃飯。那位女士應約赴會，剛坐下來，便先旨聲明： 『你不是我的類型，所以，不要打我主意。』 朋友愣了一下。他並沒有打算追求這位女士，他只是覺得她是個聊天的好對象。可是，人家這樣說，假如他說：『我不是想追求你！』那便似乎欠缺了男士風度。他惟有微笑表示明白。
『先旨聲明』也是一種態度，免得對方會誤會或日後大家尷尬。然而，這得要對自己非常有信心才可以。否則，碰到一位沒風度的男士，他說：『我對你根本沒意思！』那便很尷尬了。
我不是那種有信心『先旨聲明』的人。不喜歡一個人，我不會赴他的約，答應赴約，便是對他有好感。當然了，這種好感不一定發展成愛情，它也可以是友情。
不喜歡的人，無謂給他機會。事實上，一句話也嫌多。做人還是簡單一點好，我的一切，都可以分成喜歡和不喜歡：喜歡和不喜歡的人，喜歡和不喜歡的書，喜歡和不喜歡的地方，喜歡和不喜歡的食物，喜歡和不喜歡做的事，沒有模稜兩可。
一旦喜歡一個人，我會對他特別包容。不喜歡的，我會很挑剔。
喜歡的食物，我可以連續吃幾年才換口味。喜歡的書，我會一看再看。喜歡做的事，我可以不計代價。幸好，我喜歡的東西不多，喜歡的人更少。
●結婚的時差
台灣作家張國立的新書《亞當和那根他媽的肋骨》裏，有兩則廁所笑話：
老婆和情人的差別有多少？
差十五公斤。
老公和情人間的差別又有多大？
差四十五分鐘。
大部分的笑話，都離不開性和婚姻。女人婚後不一定會發胖，男人婚後，卻通常會疏懶一點。曾經有醫學報告指出，在床上心臟病發的男性，很大比例是在情婦床上病發的，只有少數是在自家的床上。至於理由，就不用說得太明白了。
朋友在唸一個兩年制的心理輔導碩士課程，他是班上年紀最大的一個，有一次，上課的時候，一位女同學說，有一個問題，她反覆思考了十年，那就是婚姻。這時候，我的朋友笑呵呵地說：『這個問題，我思考了三十年。』
他經歷了兩次失敗的婚姻，卻仍然相信婚姻。那位比他年輕許多的女同學，未婚，不相信婚姻。是否應該結婚，是許多人婚前和婚後都在思考的問題。
曾經跟一個女孩子聊天，十多年來，她交過兩個男朋友。跟第一個一起的時候，他很想結婚，她的事業如日中天，而且還有夢想要去完成。結果，他跟別人結婚了。現在，她很想結婚，她身邊的男人正在為事業奮鬥，一點也不想結婚。
當你很想很想的時候，不一定會遇到一個同樣很想很想的人。當你不想不想的時候，卻遇到一個很想很想的人。愛情和婚姻有時就像飛越了半個地球，難免會出現時差。
Wednesday, April 11, 2007
.......
Again I dunno wat to put for the title...haha :P
Finished more things this week, need to clear work before jetting off and settling down in a new env for work. Really looking forward to it, but also hesitant at the same time, coz I need to be solid abt my facts and technical details in order to have meetings with others. Grrr...boss is reminding me how well-versed i must be in my tech specs, so i wont be caught offguard there. Looks like i cannot always be an apprentice and rely on my boss, gonna learn to stand on my own :P
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Some things do not happen every day. Some things happen once and when you wish for it to occur again, it never will. On the contrary, some unexpected things can happen and you will be caught offguard.
A chance came by and I decided to go for it, telling myself that it may be the last and final time. Alas it slipped by again. Once again... for the nth time already.
Never mind, I know what are my priorities now. I know some things cannot be forced upon, cannot be expected to happen, cannot dwell too much. Fate and destiny are pre-arranged, we simply cannot make things happen the way we want them to.
Its time to let go. Time to embrace my career and dreams. At least its the only thing within my control and will give me returns.
Finished more things this week, need to clear work before jetting off and settling down in a new env for work. Really looking forward to it, but also hesitant at the same time, coz I need to be solid abt my facts and technical details in order to have meetings with others. Grrr...boss is reminding me how well-versed i must be in my tech specs, so i wont be caught offguard there. Looks like i cannot always be an apprentice and rely on my boss, gonna learn to stand on my own :P
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Some things do not happen every day. Some things happen once and when you wish for it to occur again, it never will. On the contrary, some unexpected things can happen and you will be caught offguard.
A chance came by and I decided to go for it, telling myself that it may be the last and final time. Alas it slipped by again. Once again... for the nth time already.
Never mind, I know what are my priorities now. I know some things cannot be forced upon, cannot be expected to happen, cannot dwell too much. Fate and destiny are pre-arranged, we simply cannot make things happen the way we want them to.
Its time to let go. Time to embrace my career and dreams. At least its the only thing within my control and will give me returns.
Monday, April 09, 2007
Outstation
My first overseas posting/assignment is confirmed:
Depart > 17/4/07, AM
Return > 27/4/07, PM
This implies:
1. 1st time to be away for 11 solids days, to be independent
2. 1st time having a hotel room to myself
3. 1st time in Philippines
4. 1st time to have no Daddy and Mommy's fussing for 11 days
5. 1st time spending my pig-day (bday) away from home
Grrrr...... :P
Depart > 17/4/07, AM
Return > 27/4/07, PM
This implies:
1. 1st time to be away for 11 solids days, to be independent
2. 1st time having a hotel room to myself
3. 1st time in Philippines
4. 1st time to have no Daddy and Mommy's fussing for 11 days
5. 1st time spending my pig-day (bday) away from home
Grrrr...... :P
Thursday, April 05, 2007
Wonderful Thurs, Good Fri
Its Thurs finally...holiday tmr :)
No ticket to Manila next wk, until Thurs, coz its Holy Week in the city and the flights are all full, except Biz Class (which i do not have the luxury of traveling on). Travel plans may be delayed, which i hope not coz it will go into my bday wk and I might have to spend 'pig day' alone in Manila....grrr... *showing black pig face* but wat to do....
Its a quiet Thurs, coz its Holy Week in Manila, which means my Client and fellow-workers there are on holiday, hence i have little or no emails. Spending my whole day reading Metcalf book again, revising and digesting wastewater treatment processes. Hmmm... i love wastewater treatment (WWT), esp on biological and membrane. I even have time to read and calculate some egs to refresh my memory. Hmmm..its a good thurs, i wish every day could be like today...hahah :)
No ticket to Manila next wk, until Thurs, coz its Holy Week in the city and the flights are all full, except Biz Class (which i do not have the luxury of traveling on). Travel plans may be delayed, which i hope not coz it will go into my bday wk and I might have to spend 'pig day' alone in Manila....grrr... *showing black pig face* but wat to do....
Its a quiet Thurs, coz its Holy Week in Manila, which means my Client and fellow-workers there are on holiday, hence i have little or no emails. Spending my whole day reading Metcalf book again, revising and digesting wastewater treatment processes. Hmmm... i love wastewater treatment (WWT), esp on biological and membrane. I even have time to read and calculate some egs to refresh my memory. Hmmm..its a good thurs, i wish every day could be like today...hahah :)
Wednesday, April 04, 2007
爱那么短，遗忘那么长
Another extract from 6park.com.
我们曾经深深地爱过一些人。爱的时候，把朝朝暮暮当作天长地久，把缱绻一时当作被爱了一世，于是承诺，于是奢望执子之手，幸福终老。然后一切消失了，然后我们终于明白，天长地久是一件多么可遇不可求的事情，幸福是一种多么玄妙多么脆弱的东西。也许爱情与幸福无关，也许这一生最终的幸福与心底最深处的那个人无关，也许将来的某一天，我们会牵住谁的手，一生细水长流地把风景看透。
其实承诺并没有什么，不见了也不算什么，所有的一切自有它的归宿。我们学着看淡，学着不强求，学着深藏，把你深深埋藏，藏到岁月的烟尘企及不到的地方。
只是，只是为什么,在某个落雨的黄昏，在某个寂寂的夜里，你还是隐隐地在我心里淡入、淡出；淡出、淡入，拿不走，抹不掉。
我，曾经，这样爱你；我，曾经以为，你是幸福的原因。
我们曾经深深地爱过一些人。爱的时候，把朝朝暮暮当作天长地久，把缱绻一时当作被爱了一世，于是承诺，于是奢望执子之手，幸福终老。然后一切消失了，然后我们终于明白，天长地久是一件多么可遇不可求的事情，幸福是一种多么玄妙多么脆弱的东西。也许爱情与幸福无关，也许这一生最终的幸福与心底最深处的那个人无关，也许将来的某一天，我们会牵住谁的手，一生细水长流地把风景看透。
其实承诺并没有什么，不见了也不算什么，所有的一切自有它的归宿。我们学着看淡，学着不强求，学着深藏，把你深深埋藏，藏到岁月的烟尘企及不到的地方。
只是，只是为什么,在某个落雨的黄昏，在某个寂寂的夜里，你还是隐隐地在我心里淡入、淡出；淡出、淡入，拿不走，抹不掉。
我，曾经，这样爱你；我，曾经以为，你是幸福的原因。
女人一生的18步
A good post from 6park.com. Enjoy :)
18岁至28岁
1、多读书，多思考。其好处到你25岁以后会逐渐显现。知识才能改变命运，而老公只能改变你的生活，你可以是知识的主人，但你只是老公的配偶。
2、争取考入一个起码二流的大学，当然一流最好。读大学的时候不要错过谈恋爱，更不要错过一切可以自我表现和锻炼的机会。
3、每天把自己打扮得漂亮可爱一点，投入地爱一次，大多数女人需要一次刻骨铭心的爱，这样可以尽早出现情感免疫，也可以为未来的日子留出更多理性的空间。
4、如果你不打算“丁克”，条件又允许的话，趁着父母还可以做兼职保姆，抓紧时间生个baby，这种结果对于一个重视正常流水线生活的女人来讲是有必要的。
www.6park.com
[28岁至38岁]
5、不要忘了抽空读读书和报纸，时尚杂志的数量最好不要超过40%，因为你已经不是个女孩子了，尽管你十分不情愿，但你还可以买毛绒玩具。
6、能不错过婚姻，还是不要错过。当然一旦错过，千万不要将就，找错人给你和他带来的伤害可能比不结婚还要大。结婚不是一件十分大不了的事情，如果是为了父母结婚的话，那就试着去爱你的老公，慢牛股虽然没有激情，至少不会狂起狂跌，免得你身心憔悴，疲惫不堪。
7、要有几个红颜和蓝颜知己，红颜知己可以让你了解和放松自己，蓝颜知己有助于你了解男人和这个社会。如果你控制不了自己非要和知己上床，那恭喜你有了情人，享受自我的同时请不要抱怨保守人士扔过来的臭鸡蛋。其实，上床的权利最终决定于女人，有所不为才能有所为，无原则的心软或挑逗只会让你成为弃妇或木子美。
8、学会跟已婚男人愉快而又不越轨的交流，要学会拒绝的技巧，如果他离开，不要去追。就当他们是一片美丽的风景，但绝不需要你留下来做园丁，因为那里园丁已经很多了。已婚男人是美丽的公园，想呼吸新鲜空气的时候，逛逛就可以了，如果碰巧公园倒找你门票，那就说声谢谢上帝吧。
9、超过25岁有男朋友的，如果没有什么大不了的矛盾最好不要考虑分手，尤其你还是个以结婚作为归宿的人。年龄越大，跟陌生人磨合的成本越高，变成第三者的几率也就越大，不过，生活是自由的，单身有单身的寂寞和快乐，结婚有结婚的苦恼和孤独，如果不考虑以婚姻为归宿，那你不必在意。
10、如果你决定和你爱的人结婚，不要在乎主动付出做一个体贴的好老婆，能有人值得你付出女人的一切是你的幸福，也是婚姻漫长夜空中闪烁的礼花，有爱才有温存，有温存才有幸福。如果不幸没有找到这个人，你要知道自己在做什么并能为自己负责就可以了。
11、过了28岁以后，要全力以赴自己的事业，这时候的你是最累的，既要是个好老婆，还要是个好员工，如果你很荣幸地成为中层，那恐怕你绝不担心减肥的事情了。当然也不是每个女人都有这种强烈的事业心，但至少你可以做一些自己喜好的事情，哪怕写点文章，琼瑶阿姨写的东西就卖了不少钱，也许你比她还强。不要告诉我你只喜欢躺在沙发上看电视和吃零食。
12、买一套自己的房子，可住可租。有机会不妨出国旅游，既放松又长见识。实在资金不足还可以骑自行车出去看看路上的帅哥，好心情是自己创造的。
13、要知道你太爱你的工作了，不过最好别爱上你的老板。
14、一定要做一个经济独立、思想独立的女人，在这个前提下，找个尊重你的好老公，毫无压力地做只小乖猫。
[38岁以后]
15、无论如何你都找不回从前的青春感受，看到周围的年轻人，只有两个字：羡慕。这时候的女人气质最重要，气质离不开内涵，感谢你曾经读过的书和奋斗自省、乐观付出的生活历程吧，气质是装不出来的。
16、38岁以后的女人一定要有自己的事业，这个事业不一定是公司、生意，而是能让你的生活充实的，同时也能给别人带来或多或少快乐的活动。
17、终于可以比较放松和安全地处理两性关系了，因为性别特征越来越不明显了，况且臭鸡蛋对你的关注力也下降了，除非你是公众人物。
18、如果没结婚，还可以来一次恋爱
18岁至28岁
1、多读书，多思考。其好处到你25岁以后会逐渐显现。知识才能改变命运，而老公只能改变你的生活，你可以是知识的主人，但你只是老公的配偶。
2、争取考入一个起码二流的大学，当然一流最好。读大学的时候不要错过谈恋爱，更不要错过一切可以自我表现和锻炼的机会。
3、每天把自己打扮得漂亮可爱一点，投入地爱一次，大多数女人需要一次刻骨铭心的爱，这样可以尽早出现情感免疫，也可以为未来的日子留出更多理性的空间。
4、如果你不打算“丁克”，条件又允许的话，趁着父母还可以做兼职保姆，抓紧时间生个baby，这种结果对于一个重视正常流水线生活的女人来讲是有必要的。
www.6park.com
[28岁至38岁]
5、不要忘了抽空读读书和报纸，时尚杂志的数量最好不要超过40%，因为你已经不是个女孩子了，尽管你十分不情愿，但你还可以买毛绒玩具。
6、能不错过婚姻，还是不要错过。当然一旦错过，千万不要将就，找错人给你和他带来的伤害可能比不结婚还要大。结婚不是一件十分大不了的事情，如果是为了父母结婚的话，那就试着去爱你的老公，慢牛股虽然没有激情，至少不会狂起狂跌，免得你身心憔悴，疲惫不堪。
7、要有几个红颜和蓝颜知己，红颜知己可以让你了解和放松自己，蓝颜知己有助于你了解男人和这个社会。如果你控制不了自己非要和知己上床，那恭喜你有了情人，享受自我的同时请不要抱怨保守人士扔过来的臭鸡蛋。其实，上床的权利最终决定于女人，有所不为才能有所为，无原则的心软或挑逗只会让你成为弃妇或木子美。
8、学会跟已婚男人愉快而又不越轨的交流，要学会拒绝的技巧，如果他离开，不要去追。就当他们是一片美丽的风景，但绝不需要你留下来做园丁，因为那里园丁已经很多了。已婚男人是美丽的公园，想呼吸新鲜空气的时候，逛逛就可以了，如果碰巧公园倒找你门票，那就说声谢谢上帝吧。
9、超过25岁有男朋友的，如果没有什么大不了的矛盾最好不要考虑分手，尤其你还是个以结婚作为归宿的人。年龄越大，跟陌生人磨合的成本越高，变成第三者的几率也就越大，不过，生活是自由的，单身有单身的寂寞和快乐，结婚有结婚的苦恼和孤独，如果不考虑以婚姻为归宿，那你不必在意。
10、如果你决定和你爱的人结婚，不要在乎主动付出做一个体贴的好老婆，能有人值得你付出女人的一切是你的幸福，也是婚姻漫长夜空中闪烁的礼花，有爱才有温存，有温存才有幸福。如果不幸没有找到这个人，你要知道自己在做什么并能为自己负责就可以了。
11、过了28岁以后，要全力以赴自己的事业，这时候的你是最累的，既要是个好老婆，还要是个好员工，如果你很荣幸地成为中层，那恐怕你绝不担心减肥的事情了。当然也不是每个女人都有这种强烈的事业心，但至少你可以做一些自己喜好的事情，哪怕写点文章，琼瑶阿姨写的东西就卖了不少钱，也许你比她还强。不要告诉我你只喜欢躺在沙发上看电视和吃零食。
12、买一套自己的房子，可住可租。有机会不妨出国旅游，既放松又长见识。实在资金不足还可以骑自行车出去看看路上的帅哥，好心情是自己创造的。
13、要知道你太爱你的工作了，不过最好别爱上你的老板。
14、一定要做一个经济独立、思想独立的女人，在这个前提下，找个尊重你的好老公，毫无压力地做只小乖猫。
[38岁以后]
15、无论如何你都找不回从前的青春感受，看到周围的年轻人，只有两个字：羡慕。这时候的女人气质最重要，气质离不开内涵，感谢你曾经读过的书和奋斗自省、乐观付出的生活历程吧，气质是装不出来的。
16、38岁以后的女人一定要有自己的事业，这个事业不一定是公司、生意，而是能让你的生活充实的，同时也能给别人带来或多或少快乐的活动。
17、终于可以比较放松和安全地处理两性关系了，因为性别特征越来越不明显了，况且臭鸡蛋对你的关注力也下降了，除非你是公众人物。
18、如果没结婚，还可以来一次恋爱
Tuesday, April 03, 2007
Manila, Philippines
It is final.
I will be outstationed for 10days to 2 wks at Manila City. Need to clear the escalating amt of documents there, esp for equipment and mechanical parts. Heard that the files are messy, documentation is poor, SPM summarized in 1 sentence, "Men do documentation, wat u tink? Not as good as girls." Very classic description.
Should be jetting off next Tues, be back on following Fri. Haha, once i get hold of more info on my schedule, i will post it online. Plus my long long overdue posts from Melb and CNY, just post some extracts of pics la :P haha...
I will be outstationed for 10days to 2 wks at Manila City. Need to clear the escalating amt of documents there, esp for equipment and mechanical parts. Heard that the files are messy, documentation is poor, SPM summarized in 1 sentence, "Men do documentation, wat u tink? Not as good as girls." Very classic description.
Should be jetting off next Tues, be back on following Fri. Haha, once i get hold of more info on my schedule, i will post it online. Plus my long long overdue posts from Melb and CNY, just post some extracts of pics la :P haha...
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